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Abusive Personality Types and what makes them "TICK"
Although every abuser is different, their core attitudes & beliefs are similar:
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At RemedyBlox we recognize the dark shadow of domestic violence against men
According to Canada's 2016 Police Crime Report Data it was revealed that when Intimate Partner Violence happens it is most often identified by the assailant's gender that used a weapon to assault their intimate partner.
This data lends proof that women are more likely to be assaulted, seriously injured or killed by their male intimate partner or spouse during or after the end of the relationship where a weapon or brute physical force is used against them. However, domestic assaults like emotional, psychological and physical abuse where a weapon was not used, or as it pertains to incidence of financial exploitation and/or sexual assaults perpetrated on men by their female or same sex partner - are not captured properly in this data.
Instead, these types of domestic assault incidence against male victims by their female (or same sex) partner/spouse continue to be under represented in crime data reports including in the main stream media due to the unfortunate gender bias where the woman still continues to be perceived as the "weaker sex",
So when a female abuser of a smaller stature proceeds to physically assaults her male partner/spouse who is much bigger and physically stronger than she is - the likelihood of the man being believed by the police or others will be low. Especially if the woman fabricates the assault incident and proceeds to claim self-defense. Where unless the male victim has supporting evidence to the contrary - the likelihood of him being believed is unlikely where he can run the risk of being charged and arrested alone or along with his abusive partner.
Many male victims of Intimate Partner Violence (IPV ) are equally reluctant to tell their family, friends or coworkers that they are being abused or assaulted by their female or same sex partner out of fear that they again will not be believed and/or even have their manhood brought into question. Each of which revictimizes the male victim further and leads many to remain silent and to suffer in solitude.
Unfortunately, their silence further promotes reluctance of other male IPV victims to come forward as they too believe they are the only ones going through such an ordeal. Many might even blame themselves in part, while others fear not being believed or worse be blamed for the assault in a society that ignores their plight.
For example: Crime statistics already reveal that approximately 21% of all Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) assaults are committed against men by their female intimate partners. However, this figure does not capture the dark shadow of actual incidence of domestic violence perpetrated against men by their female/same sex partner/spouse.
Lastly, victim support services for male Domestic Abuse survivors are limited at best in North America and Europe if compared to what is available to women survivors of IPV. This lack of support and lack of shelters dedicated to male victimized by their partner/spouse forces many to feel lost and defenseless in a sociaty that ignores their plight.
Fortunately there are some brave souls that have taken the needed steps to provide abused men the needed supports, access to resources including temporary refuge. The following are just a couple of examples - where more work and public awareness is definitely needed to afford male IPV victims with equal access to victim support services, added legal protections and courage to break free from the cycle of domestic abuse. In Canada - The Canadian Association for Equality has succeeded in its Campaign to Establish the Canadian Centre for Men and Families - Toronto’s first “Men’s Centre” that will be opening in April 2021.
There are also several online support services for men looking for assistance on their domestic situation and options available to protect themselves and also their children from the abusive partner.
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Emotional abuse can be generally defined as using manipulation, fear, intimidation and guilt (among other things) to control someone and undermine their self-confidence and sense of autonomy. The reason it causes so much confusion is because it can be subtle, elusive and insidious. Individuals subjected to this form of covert abuse often don’t realize it is happening, no matter how smart, capable or self-aware they are. It is also common for many to start doubting themselves - especially when they are deeply vested into the relationship. Often the abused partner will also feel reluctant to attribute this form of abuse as being perpetrated by their partner / spouse as that shatters the image of the person whom they fell in love with and also brings their relationship into question.
The following checklist has been compiled to help identify if one is dealing with an emotionally abusive partner so as to help identify the problem as well as validate past painful emotional reactions one has experienced.
When answering the following questions - please reflect on your current relationship and ask yourself the following... Does your partner do the following?
If you answered "YES" to some, a few or most of the above questions - you owe it to yourself to evaluate your relationship closer because the above snippets of emotional abuse when perpetrated against an individual over time and with increased frequency and intensity will create a psychological fire storm that can lead to the development of PTSD and other debilitating psychological and physiological conditions.
Emotional abuse in an intimate relationship is psychologically and emotionally harmful. This form of abuse is often lasting and much harder and longer to recover from - if one is fortunate to make such a claim. Especially since many are left with lasting effects including PTSD, being triggered in the future by recollections and comparisons to memories of past abuse. It erodes one's self-confidence, destroys their self-worth, impacts their body and even gets one to question their own sanity
The following article lists 13 ways abusers carry out Emotional Assaults against their partner and how to recognize this tactic to safeguard against its intended harms.
Abusers tend to posses Narcissistic traits where they know that their next love interest will not just automatically drop to their knees and fall madly in love with someone as abusive and cruel as they are. So to bait their next victim into a relationship they use a well crafted technique often referred to as "Love-Bombing".
First, the abuser typically identifies a prospective partner based on perceived weaknesses that they want to exploit. To lure that person in - they appear smitten, overly interested and invested and they portray themselves as kind-hearted and ever so understanding. Basically they will act like you are the most amazing person they’ve ever met. They will pull out all the stops to make you feel special and equally grateful that your paths have crossed with theirs.
However, once you start to become emotionally attached to them and hooked on their charm - they will start devalue you and exploit vulnerabilities that they have picked up on after putting into specific uncomfortable situations to garner a reaction they can assess, as well as from having prodded and urged you to disclose past painful events or difficult situations they can use against you.
The devaluation often starts with a random comment that puts you down, or they blame you for things you haven’t done. Slowly they will also start to plant seeds of doubt where you become unsure about your looks, your own character and even start to question your own sanity. After all how could someone who was so kind and affectionate be so cruel or insensitive..."IT MUST BE ME NOT THEM".. is the inner dialogue that creeps up for many victims.
2. Put-Down of Others
This is a warning sign. Abusive individuals readily disclose to their new partner all the terrible things that their exes did to them. They will tend to only speak disparagingly about their exes to their new partner. This serves as a building block for future emotional abuse as the new partner will first feel relieved that they are nothing like their ex. This creates hope that their relationship will surely last.
However, most abusers will subtly start to compare their new partner to their ex. The abuser relies on this tactic to get their new partner to act in a way that they expect them to so as to avoid being cast in the same negative light. After all the last thing anyone wants to hear is being told "You are just like my ex."
You also need to realize that regardless of what you do or don't do - once your relationship is over your abusers will depict you in the same negative way to their next conquest.
So best to analyze and determine for yourself if what your new partner tells you about their ex is an accurate representation of their character or truly justified.
For example: If the abuser claims that their ex was a jealous type who created horrible arguments after they returned home from going out with friends. Ask yourself "WHY DID YOUR EX REACT LIKE THAT?" Was it perhaps because your partner stayed out later than they said they would - which ruined plans their ex made for both of them to go out together that same evening? Was it because going out with friends resulted in them getting drunk and driving home impaired again after they promised they would not do that? Was it because going out with friends entailed all of them going out to a strip club where backroom sex trysts were purchased?"
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In Febryary 2019 - we created this private & confidential group on Facebook for both men and women who are struggling with a particular difficult relationship with someone they know or are involved with (e.g., intimate partner, family member, neighbor, someone at work, etc..) who is causing them some form of undue hardship or being abusive.
This group is a closed group to offer all members the value of posting openly about their personal ordeal for the benefit of gaining added insights and support from feloow members who have gone through or are going through a similar abusive relationship. Insights and information shared in this group is intended to help members learn not just how to survive but how to thrive after gaining their freedom from their abuser that was physically, emotionally, mentally, sexually and/or financially abusive or who is refusing to leave them alone after the relationship ended.
The administrator of this group is is Remedy Max (founder of RemedyBlox) where in addition to moderating the group activities she offers emotional support as well as identifying critical patterns in destructive behaviors, how to recognize toxic relationships so members can identify and validate their experiences. She also shares practical tools to help group members mitigate against future risks and harms while instilling self-confidence and empowerment to alleviate real and perceived fears that can prevent some from making the necessary changes in their lives.
Group members also have access to many helpful risk-mitigation and recovery resources to help them break the cycle of abuse and reclaim their personal power and self-confidence so they can enter healthy and safe future relationships.
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Facebook and many other social media platforms offer confidential and private support group forums to survivors of domestic abuse / intimate partner violence where members who are or have gone through domestic violence can lend one another support. The ability to disclose and share one's personal experiences offers immense therapeutic value as it starts the process of validating one's personal experiences and the individual no longer feels alone or that they are the only one going through such an ordeal.
By connecting with others who have gone through similar experiences and their account of success stories after they left an abusive partner is also empowering and affords others with needed inspiration and renewed hope that there is a better life waiting for them to explore once they make the brave decision to start anew.
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If you believe your partner is being abusive towards you are feeling overwhelmed in your relationship then consider reaching out to the following agencies for help:
If you feel you are in danger and at risk of being seriously physically injured or worse by your intimate partner please call 911 for police assistance.
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We have compiled a list of well written books to help survivors of domestic abuse gain the needed insights and tools to help mitigate their risks and reclaim their life from an abusive intimate partner.
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We will be featuring new online course programs on Udemy about domestic abuse and intimate partner violence prevention to empower participants with knowledge and options to better protect themselves against abusive and toxic partners with new found confidence.
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We offer various public presentations at community events and public forums for members of the general public as well as for special interest agency groups to promote greater public awareness about domestic abuse and intimate partner prevention.
The purpose of these public educational platforms is to open the dialogue to dispel common misconceptions about domestic abuse - including bringing to the forefront how men can be abused by their partners only to be often revictimized when they attempt to report their abuser or when they disclose their ordeal to others.
Through our presentations we help audiences to readily recognize the Yellow & Red Flags of an abusive partner and how to mitigate their risk exposures to safeguard their personal safety and mental health. We also address how survivors of domestic abuse are at a higher risk of developing a serious behavior addiction or substance abuse and how to mitigate against this risk exposure.
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